Happy Self Love Saturday Friends!
Today’s video is inspired by a few experiences I had in late December/early January. I’m a natural helper and a “fixer”. I have a slight Olivia Pope complex and will gladly take over your problems in hopes of solving every single one. This is not right, it’s very unhealthy and is apart of my regular self sabotage of taking on others problems as if they are my own and feeling all of the pressure and stress along with it. Basically being one of those people who says, “I don’t like drama” but I’m all up in the mix. Taking on all of their bags, and getting caught up in the drama because now I’m in the position of “savior”. I’m learning that just because I like to help that doesn’t mean the kind of help I’m giving is useful or even needed.
Apart of Learning self care means knowing when to admit that what you’re doing is not right, I can look past my own ego and say, though I want to help, what I can offer is not helping you because you’re not growing or learning but rather just becoming dependent on me. As a friend I want to help you and I want to remain sane so lets talk about the right options for giving you support. Check out my video below and let me know if you’ve been in a similar position.