I love lipstick! I grew up with the influence of it from my Mom and my Grandma and it has become a staple part of my beauty routine. I often get asked what color I’m wearing or where I got it so I decided to do a video featuring Maybelline Lipstick and some of my favorite colors and a little piece of My Lipstick (Love) Story! Check out the video below and let me know, why do you love lipstick?
Happy Self Love Saturday Friends!
Today’s video is inspired by a few experiences I had in late December/early January. I’m a natural helper and a “fixer”. I have a slight Olivia Pope complex and will gladly take over your problems in hopes of solving every single one. This is not right, it’s very unhealthy and is apart of my regular self sabotage of taking on others problems as if they are my own and feeling all of the pressure and stress along with it. Basically being one of those people who says, “I don’t like drama” but I’m all up in the mix. Taking on all of their bags, and getting caught up in the drama because now I’m in the position of “savior”. I’m learning that just because I like to help that doesn’t mean the kind of help I’m giving is useful or even needed.
Apart of Learning self care means knowing when to admit that what you’re doing is not right, I can look past my own ego and say, though I want to help, what I can offer is not helping you because you’re not growing or learning but rather just becoming dependent on me. As a friend I want to help you and I want to remain sane so lets talk about the right options for giving you support. Check out my video below and let me know if you’ve been in a similar position.
Happy Self Love Saturday. Today I’m talking about choices.
Lately I’ve been analyzing my choices and why I do what I do, where it stems from? What these choices say about who I am, and what I want in my life and as well what my choices are highlighting about my mistakes?
Why does “drama” and stress come into my life, And did I make a choice to invite it in? Because I really do believe that even in the negative or not so good things that happen in our lives we still had a choice in how we dealt with it and sometimes we had a choice in letting it in all together.
How many of us say, I don’t like “drama” but still have friends, people or situations regularly in our lives that invites drama or we may in directly find ourself involved?
I’m naturally very maternal and I find that along with this trait comes my need to help solve and fix the problems of others, especially if I feel like I have a lot of knowledge or understanding of the scenario. I’m also an empath,
Being an empath is when you are affected by other people’s energies, and have an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. Your life is unconsciously influenced by others’ desires, wishes, thoughts, and moods. Being an empath is much more than being highly sensitive and it’s not just limited to emotions
I will easily scroll through my twitter or Facebook feed and read 2 or 3 stories, watch a couple videos and be in tears for a multitude of reasons. And my intuition is literally like a wifi signal for my friends moods and problems. I’m only realizing now that I’m like this, and in order to not feel overwhelmed with the problems of others I have to protect my energy and time because I will easily give myself to people and situations that can drain me. I’m still learning this lesson and adjusting it regularly though.
I recently experienced a situation where my time and effort were taken for granted and the best way for me to explain the way I felt was, played. I was definitely disappointed, but my intuition kept saying to me in this moment “you played yourself”. Somewhere in this situation, I let my maternal instinct get the best of me and I made the choice to give my energy and my time. I made the choice to be forthright and involved in a way that I should’ve known would naturally put me in a place of vulnerability because I would end up expecting reciprocation or face disappointment. But either way my maternal and empath ways were going to end up depleted and I didn’t need to be. I made the wrong choice. I should have made the choice to help from the sidelines instead of carrying the baggage of someone else.
But I couldn’t help but ask myself why I made this choice? Why did I set myself up for disappointment? Did I not listen to my intuition or did my ego think I was capable of fixing something that was meant to be a lesson for someone else? I’m still not sure to be honest but all I know is somewhere I made a choice and the choice has made me analyze a simple and subtle problem that I think could’ve been avoided. I don’t like stress and drama but I walked right into it, I opened the door wide open and invited it in, so being annoyed in the end is no ones fault but my own.
But the loop hole that I missed has made me think, and think and THINK about what my choices say about me and how do they help me to move ahead in life? Do I make positive choices for myself? Am I self sabotaging even within a good intention because I am ignoring clear signs of “drama”? Sometimes self sabotage is not as obvious to us as we think it is, and one simple choice can lead you down a wrong path.
There’s nothing wrong with helping your friends, and there’s nothing wrong with being empathetic but taking on baggage, or parenting grown ups, these are choices that can lead to problems. And even within a good intention you can be making the wrong choice. A good intention should help both me and you in the end and that’s not being selfish, that’s just being smart.
I sincerely hope to learn and have a better understanding of my choices in 2017 and to leave the unintentional drama and stress behind.
Have analyzed your choices? How have your choices affected you? Let me know in the comments below and have a wonderful Self Love Saturday & Christmas Eve! xo
The first Queen I ever met was my Mother.
Today is my Mom’s birthday and it only felt right to publicly acknowledge the GREATEST person in my life.
Happy Birthday Mom, I love you more than words can tell. You are my best friend, my biggest inspiration, my confidant, my cheer leader, my coach, my business partner and the person I care most about in the whole world.
We have grown and experienced so much in this year and all of it has made us stronger and more prepared for God’s purpose on our life. He has proven that through Him all things are possible and shown that when you love God, you love yourself.
I hope in my lifetime to be half the woman that you are and I hope in this year of life that all of your wildest and most beautiful dreams come true because you are so deserving.
Happy Birthday!! Xoxo 🎉😘❤️🎂
What is your morning routine?
It is incredibly important to have a consistent and structured morning routine. Many successful people talk about their morning habits and the significance the structure has had in their overall success in life and business.
When you start every day with healthy habits and focussing on what is important for you in your life you consciously and subconsciously take actions towards the life you want.
The main benefits of a morning routine performed every day is that not a day will go by without you thinking about your goals and what you want to reach which in turn helps you achieve them
Depending on what your morning routine consists of it can help you with everything from getting more focussed and effective to getting into physical shape.
My morning routine could definitely use some work and a big goal for myself from now and into 2017 is to set myself up for daily success.
My morning routine in reality:
I wake up, my first thoughts and words are “Thank you God” and then I grab my phone, and check emails, I do a bit of social media scrolling, I get up out of bed, brush my teeth, wash my face, prepare a glass of water, lemon and apple cider vinegar, I drink 2 glasses, then make a smoothie. Then I tackle the work for the day. Which usually consists of emails, and planning a shoot, event or video drop.
I don’t take much time for myself with this routine, I don’t meditate, my prayer time is not set into place, but instead just happens as a conversation with God while I multi-task. And exercise? That is more of an after thought rather than a “must do” part of my day. The only true structured part of my morning is my water consumption and not sleeping past 8:30 am. I’d really like to do better.
My morning routine goals?
Wake up by 7am (7:30 latest, I love sleep lol). “Thank you God”, drink my 2-3 glasses of water, meditate on my goals and thoughts. Conversation with God, and 30 mins to an hour of free form, creative writing. Head to a hot yoga or bootcamp class. Check emails when I get home, and then get into work mode!
In a perfect world this is the regular start to my day. I’m learning daily, that life is all about, “How to Win” and “what do you need to do to win? What does winning look like for you? Because it’s different for all of us, some people can operate on 4-6 hours sleep while others need 8. Some people need quiet time before bed and others can fall asleep in the middle of a party and wake up 30 minutes later refreshed! It takes a while to learn what you need and don’t need, what a perfect situation looks like for you and what you can tolerate or handle. My 2017 education plan is going to focus on what “winning” looks like for me and what are the chess moves that I need to make, personally and professionally in order to WIN.
Today I’m starting with my morning routine.
What does your morning routine look like? What habits have helped you?
I broke my camera. I honestly feel lost not being able to use it everyday, edit and post a video. I hate missing a #SelfLoveSaturday so today I’ll be writing instead.
I’m in between apartments right now so my life feels a little more chaotic than usual, and even though I think I’m doing a pretty good job of riding the wave I can’t wait for just a bit of calm and to be settled. I think Mercury is in retrograde though so the uneasy feeling I have doesn’t surprise me. I have a mix of emotions going on that I need to settle but i’m not exactly sure how, which is why this post is going to seem like a big vent session. For the Leos:
Mercury enters Capricorn, one of the hardest working signs in the zodiac, on December 2. Mercury in earthy Capricorn will stimulate the sector of your chart that rules your day job and your responsibilities, as well as your health and habits. Expect to do a lot of talking about these issues this month! But don’t expect everything to move full speed ahead: Mercury retrograde begins on December 19.
I have a friend that I love dearly but there’s a few things that are annoying and concerning me that have come up in the last little while and truthfully my guard is up. I have a love/hate relationship with my own guard because 1. I hate the uneasy feeling & 2. It takes a while for it to go back down.
I know that my intuition is sharp and I don’t gain these feelings for no reason, but I haven’t figured out yet how to deal with the emotions & energy in a positive way. In a way that helps me to understand myself, my boundaries and my friends. In the last 5 years of my life I’ve had a few changed friendships because of this feeling but I’ve yet to come to terms with it. I still blame myself for the discomfort and loss of friendship, I question if I’m just a bitch or too sensitive. And I get frustrated that I haven’t learned how to channel and express these emotions in a clear and positive way.
I want to, I need to.
I’m ready for 2016 to be done with, it was a rocky year for me. I made a lot of upward progress in 2015 and then ’16 came and said “lets walk through this Quick Sand instead.” I fell into a depression again, I gained, lost and gained weight. I’ve struggled all year with what I’m supposed to be eating, if i’m not on a detox, then I regularly wake up with an upset stomach. Literally as I type this right now i’m in discomfort. I lost my relationship with my boyfriend (though I’m in a better place with it now) and I had a good chunk of the year where I had no clue what I was/should/need/want to do. And i’ll be honest I’m only holding on by a thread to the few confirmations that I’ve had in this later portion of the year. And that’s probably the most interesting part of it all — normally in my business as soon as Thanksgiving approaches things slow down a lot, but right now for me, its actually picked up. I’ve been filming for my production company like crazy, and its great! Its rewarding and exciting! I’m doing my best to have a different new year, a different outlook and experience and I actually think the work is going to pay off.
Like I said 2016 was not my favorite year of life but through it all I’m still optimistic for next year. I think a lot of good is going to happen so i’m anxious and ready for it to start. I’m going to try to figure out how to deal with my discomforts in a positive way that serves myself and those around me. And i’m going to continue to apply patience and faith to myself, and my years. Patience while in a struggle and faith that in the end it will all be okay.
Happy Self Love Saturday!!!
So we’re in phase one of the “Glo Up” what do we do now? This is when we plan, strategize and then execute. We know we want better for ourselves and to change and now the only thing to focus on is how? How, why and what do we need to do? I love strategy, it gives me energy to come up with a new plan and I’m truly excited when I begin to execute it. The last 2 weeks have been spent, dreaming, analyzing and planning for my future and accepting my present state. I feel hopeful, grateful and a lot more energized.
Take this weekend to make a plan for yourself, check out my video below and let me know how your beginning is going!
Happy Self Love Saturday!
So announcement to make guys… WE’RE GLO-ING UP!
I’ve been so inspired by the 21 day detox and how amazing it made me feel, inside and out. It was one of the first times in my life that I started to see the “SHE” in myself that I’ve always wanted to see and then I had a great conversation with my friend Karyn, who also did the 21 day detox about continuing on this path. We both agreed, the pressure to grow, and become our best selves couldn’t stop after 21 days, but we needed to keep with this energy until we completely became HER! I’m going back to the daily vlogs starting on Dec 1st so please subscribe to my channel to keep up with everything.
So what does a glo’up mean? What does that look like? It means bettering yourself in every way until you are completely satisfied with who you see in the mirror and then figuring out how to improve that person again lol. For me that means, hot yoga, God, singing, acting, love, self love, creativity, exercise, weight lifting, wellness, being as natural as possible, find joy, faith over fear, new goals, executing my goals, running, 10k race, Half Marathon Race, laughing A LOT, strengthening my friendships, hanging out with my mom, filming all of the time, writing daily, and more.
So are you ready to challenge yourself?
This detox is flying by! I’m now really getting the hang of it and loving the way I feel so it’s been easy for me to resist the breads/grains and sugars and dairy. I’m already planning want permanent changes I want to make when I’m finished the 21 days, so far I’m thinking I’ll definitely cut the dairy, I had already greatly reduced my cheese intake but doing this detox has showed me that I really don’t need or miss the cheese and even though I absolutely love bread I’m not a fan of how it makes me feel so I’ll probably do a big cut back on that as well.
How is the detox going for you? What day are you on? Check out my update videos below! xo
Today’s message is simple — JUST DO IT! Whatever it is, if it’s your happiness, weight loss, career change, climate change, mood change, LIFE change then DO IT!! Have faith not fear and take the leap!
Happy Self Love Saturday!!