(New Video Post) The Most Important Lessons from My 20’s #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

A couple videos ago, I asked you guys to leave me a comment with some of your video ideas or suggestions that you’d like to see from me and one comment was from RochelleSays asking for “the important lessons I learned in my 20’s.” I thought this was a great suggestion! I loved my 20’s, I’ve grown so much in the last decade and learnt a lot of valuable lessons, there was too many to put in one video but here it is,  just some of the most important lessons that I learned in my 20’s.

 

  1. Trust Yourself: It took me a long time to learn to trust my voice and my ideas and my plans. The more I learned to trust myself, the more my life started to come together.
  2. Not All Friendships Are Forever: I started my 20’s with close friendships that didn’t last me the entire decade, and the guilt and the anger took a toll on me. I’m not sure why I put this expectation on myself that these friends were supposed to be with me forever, but as I evolved I realized some friends are only meant to last one season and THAT’S OKAY. Enjoy the lessons, the jokes and good times with them and if it doesn’t go any further than that, you’re not a bad person, you’re just growing up.
  3. You Can’t Eat Everything: It took me awhile to realize that I was no longer a teenager, in the early half of my 20’s I was barely working out and just eating whatever I wanted and I gained a lot of weight. By time I was 25 I felt like I looked completely different and it was simply because I wasn’t taking care of myself. I had to take the time to learn my body, understand my habits and start to respect the body that I was in.
  4. You Control Your Beauty: Within my 20’s I learned (and I’m still learning) that my “beauty” was in my hands. Yes there was your God given genetics that played a hand too, but it wasn’t as big as I thought it was, because I realized that when I started to treat myself right, with healthy food, meditation, prayer and exercise than I felt better. And feeling better made my naturally look better and that made me want to dress better and it went on and on. And this became “the beauty” that people began to see and react to. I was in control of my beauty.
  5. What Do You Want?: One day I asked myself this question, like seriously, WHAT DID I WANT? And I wrote it out, I brainstormed, I dreamed and I took the time to let it really come together and once I finally had it all written out, I looked at it clearly and then I began the process of executing.
  6. Being You Is Enough: This was hands down the most important lesson I learnt within my 20’s. I took the leap of faith on MYSELF. I started to believe in me, and accept myself for who I am and just be 100% me all the time. Sometimes were tough but in the end, I felt better and life seemed to work out better the more I was myself.

Tell me in the comments below what lessons you’ve learnt so far in your 20’s or if you’re out of your 20’s what lessons did you learn?

(New Video Post) Why Is #SelfLove Important? – Behind The Scenes #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

Hopefully by now you have had a chance to check out my 3 part docu-series that I released earlier in the week, but if not, no fears, the videos are below! 😉 I gotchu boo! Today’s #SelfLoveSaturday video is all about why I did this project, why I chose the ladies I chose and why self love is important to me. Watch the video below and in the comments let me know, “what is your magic?” and “when did you find trust?”

 

(New Video Post) Finding Magic, Finding Joy & Finding Trust – 3 Part #SelfLove Documentary

I wanted to make a documentary that focused on Self Love and the beauty of Black Women, below you’ll find A 3 part series, “Finding Magic” “Finding Joy” & “Finding Trust”. I was privileged to have open honest and inspirational conversations with writers, singers, actors, artists and cool girls who shared their experiences with me and I am so happy with how it turned out. Thanks for the love it’s already received and please let the questions sit with you and let me know? What’s your magic? What’s your biggest fear and when did you find trust for yourself?

(New Video Post) Your Environment Could Be Self Sabotage #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

A few weeks ago I had a really interesting thing happen to me, I was in the midst of self sabotaging by staying in an environment that I’ve been in before and I know its not good for me. And to top it off I was literally repeating the same mistake that I’ve done already! Then God gave me a way out, but the “out” came masked as a “negative” but in reality it was a “positive”. It was the KICK that I needed, it was the moment of truth to look around at myself and see what I was doing – AGAIN! So I took the boat that God had sent me and I got out of there as fast as I could lol.

It was a reminder to check myself and if I want to stop self sabotaging that means everything has to be questioned and looked at with a fine tooth comb, especially my environment. If it doesn’t calm me, inspire me, and enhance me than I do not need to be there! Check out my quick video below inspired by a negative environment.

(New Video Post) How To Have Movement In Your Life #SelfLove

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Hey guys!

I joined a weekly bible study group last week. It’s my first time doing something like this but I’m so glad I’ve done it! It feels really good to get a positive Word mid week and be in a calm space with like minded people, thank you to my friend Randy for putting Konnect LA together.

Last week the message that we focused on was Movement and how Movement comes into your life, what creates movement, what may force you to move in life and so on. It was an inspiring conversation and right in line with my thoughts, goals and plans for my year. This week my video is inspired by that conversation and I’m highlighting the moments that stood out to me the most. Check out the video below.

(New Video Post) Why Do You Doubt Yourself? #SelfloveSaturday

Hey guys,

Happy Self Love Saturday! I had a big “ah-ha” moment the other day while I was on a shoot and it has inspired todays video. I was doing what I love – working on set, talking to interesting people and being an artist and out of nowhere crept in a little moment of self doubt. I don’t know why, I don’t know how but this little nasty voice started telling me I wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t funny enough, they aren’t impressed with me and blah blah blah! I just laughed, honestly, I was shocked. 1. That I was finally in a place of consciousness that I could hear this voice 2. That I understood what was happening and aware enough to stop it. And I did. I took a moment of pause and then in silence I spent the next few minutes in gratitude, going over everything good that was happening around me instead of worrying and thinking about anything bad. It helped, the little doubt voice stopped and my smile came back, and my confidence returned.

But I couldn’t help but ask one question, WHY? Why did I have this little Doubt voice living in my head? Where did it come from? Did something happen to me as kid? Why did I tell myself this tragic story about who I am in times when I needed to be my best? But most importantly HOW Do I unlearn this terrible habit? I haven’t figured that out yet, but I’m going to try as much as I can until something sticks. Check out the video below inspired by “Little Miss Doubt”.




(New Video Post) Who is In Your Circle of Influence #SelfLoveSaturday




“Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of heaven.
Fear in your mind produces fear in your life. This is the meaning of hell.”

I’m re-reading “A Return to Love” By Marianne Williamson. It is such a beautiful and eye opening book and probably the best thing I’ve done for myself this month. I’ve hit the chapter on “Relationships” and Marianne simply puts it that all of the relationships in our lives are for the purpose of teaching. We are to teach the people in our life something and they are to teach us something and all of it is strategically put together by God. Reading this gave me a big “a-ha” because I’ve been analyzing my friends a lot in the last little while and why we’re in each other’s lives, but Marianne Williamson reminded me it’s about teaching. I often forget how important the teaching process is, and both positive and not so positive experiences can teach us something that will change our lives and perspective forever. This is a necessary part of growth. Check out my video below, inspired by “A Return To Love” and the below quote for a little more #selflovesaturday inspiration.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.




(New Post) 5 Ways To Have The Most Productive Year Ever




Happy New Year!!

Its the first day of the year and all of the plans, the resolutions and all of the other wishes are starting today! Like many others I am very excited for a fresh start and a new chance to apply the lessons I learned from 2016 into this year and form better habits to allow me to dream bigger and reach for more. I’ve been very fortunate to naturally be a self motivated person but I realize not everyone is like this and we all could use a pick me up every now and then, myself included to set us up in the most productive way. So to kick off my 2017 I made a list of my top 5 tips that I’ve used for staying motivated and having a productive year. Read below and let me know what are you doing to ensure that 2017 is your most productive year ever?


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1.Get Motivated and Break Your Bad Habits

It takes 21 days to make or break a habit and a lot of people say it’s easiest for their mentality to start a new challenge on the 1st of the month. Take advantage of this day and mark it on your calendar as the start of your challenge and then mark off your completion day. Start with identifying the habit that you want to break ie. smoking, cursing, sugar, negative thoughts or the habit that you want to gain like reading daily, meditation, positive thoughts, daily exercise. Now take the baby steps to motivate yourself daily by starting everyday with a list of the tasks for the day and highlight the challenge on your list. Highlighting it is making it a priority for your day. I’m currently doing the 21 day detox again and on my daily task list I have the detox highlighted with a note to do a food journal through my day. Making the food journal one of my priorities helps keep me on task for my goal and learn healthy eating habits.

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2.Meditation and Daily Affirmations

“I am _____” Look at yourself in the mirror and say 10 positive things about yourself and your life daily. This practice is proven to act as a confidence booster and personal motivator. Putting positive intention on your life aligns your thoughts with your daily work. Using daily affirmations and adding in meditation are the perfect way to keep you zen all year. I love meditation because I think it’s like having a very relaxing conversation with God. No words, just deep breathing and clearing your mind of stress, worry and daily distractions. The practice of meditation can be difficult to start, but if you focus on short periods of time, 5-10 minutes to begin it makes it a lot easier to build your practice up. Find a quiet space, close your eyes, relax your body (I prefer to be sitting, that way I don’t fall asleep lol) and focus solely on your breathing. I’ve also added in using meditation music to help keep my mind focused and the music is a big help in making me relaxed.

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3.Get Creative

Get a notebook and write down 5 creative ideas that you’d like to do this year. Coming up with creative ideas is a great thing to aim for and look forward to in your year and can be equally as motivating and exciting as booking a vacation! So have some fun, dare and dream and ask yourself “what do you want to do?”

4.Plan Ahead

It’s time to make your plan for the next few months. Get a big white board, or a note book, or just a plain piece of paper, anything that you can keep in front of you daily. Take those creative ideas that you wrote down in the step above, and now it’s time to realistically write down a plan for them with a deadline for starting and completing. Plan out for the next 4 months, take the time to daydream about what your ideal work load looks like? Are you working like crazy from now till March because in April you’re taking a spring break? Or is the last Saturday of every month the deadline for a new chapter in the book your writing? All that matters is you write the plan down in a simple way and you have it somewhere in your room or home that allows you to see it everyday. Seeing it daily will act as a reminder and is the most helpful way for you to actually complete your goals.   

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5. An Accountability Partner

My mom always says “one hand washes the other” so ask for help from the people around you. We can’t do everything by ourself, and our friends shouldn’t just be in our life to look cute, so don’t be afraid or too prideful to ask them for help with your ideas and to hold you accountable. Ask a friend to remind you about your deadlines or even be a nag about completion dates. Send them a screen shot of your calendar and in the nicest way possible ask them to remind you about the important things and do the same for them.

I hope these tips will help, wishing you guys nothing but productivity and success in 2017!




(New Video Post) Stop Sabotaging & Find Your Purpose #SelfLoveSaturday – Last Post of 2016

The video above and message below is for anyone who has spent this year and all the other years sabotaging themselves out of their purpose. Stop doing it, find your peace, believe in yourself, let go of your bad habits and step into your light.

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2016 was a weird year for me, I’ve said this a bunch of times on this blog, but once again, it was really weird! Kinda felt like Mercury was in retrograde the whole year lol. So I’m going into 2017 positive, ready and realistic. I’m not setting goals for the whole year like I usually do, or making any grandiose promises of how “2017 is going to be MY year and last year was just a warm up” blah blah. Instead I’m just setting up my goals month to month which is what I usually do, and it helps me to stay on task.

I learned a lot of important lessons this year about myself, one being that I have a lot of ideas, but in order for me to accomplish them I have to plan them out in the most realistic way possible. Write them down, give them a deadline and I will complete it. That was a positive discovery.

The 2nd being that I have a pattern of doing self sabotaging behavior, both consciously and unconsciously and this is something that I have to actively work on and unlearn. I sabotaged myself all year in ways that I have already done in the past (gaining weight, cutting off my hair, falling into a depression and relying on other people to fix it) so realizing that I was on a loop was equally shocking and annoying for me. This was also a positive discovery because once you realize where the problems are in your life, the only thing left to do is fix it.

I am very confident in the fix and in the conscious changes that I’ll be making to my life for 2017 and on ward. I’m not ashamed to say I’m not perfect and some of my issues and mistakes are solely brought on my own choices, but life is about growth and becoming your best self for the time and place. I’m going to continue to figure it out, in the best way that I can and I am going to unlearn as much as I can. There’s a quote that I read this week that basically said, Hell is meeting the person you could’ve became. I would hate to get to the end of my days and I realize I held myself back from being all that I could be.

2016 was the year of shining a spotlight on my dark spots which now in hindsight I’m realizing it was exactly what I needed because in 2015 I felt like my self love journey was in a rut and was lacking inspiration, but God said “hold up little girl! You still have work to do!” LOL.

So here’s to hoping that in 2017 I surprise myself!

Thank you all for your continued support, have an amazing New Year’s Eve and a fantastic first day of 2017!




(New Video Post) Stepping into Your Light

I created my youtube channel trailer this week and in doing it, I realized I’ve done a lot. Not to toot my own horn but I’ve been pursuing this thing for awhile and in creating my channel trailer it kind of felt more like I was creating a demo reel on my life’s work lol. It was an interesting experience on deciding what to put in, and how I wanted it to come across and just who and what is “Andrea Lewis Channel”. In the end I was proud looking back at it, thinking about where I started my career and then why I started this youtube channel and if my initial goals met my current ones.

My mission and my goals for my career are still the same as they’ve always been since I was a little girl but in reflecting on my career and my life as an artist I had a sad realization that I’d yet to truly step into my light. I looked back on my work and realized that I had a lot of moments that I could’ve done more. And this is not one of those “we’re our own worst critic” moments, this is real honesty, that I am actually capable of being, doing, acting, giving, living, having, believing, dreaming and did I say BEING more!

When I look back, there is always a moment that I can reflect on where I wasn’t giving my all, I wasn’t truly giving myself a fair shot at winning. The slightest and simplest self sabotage in the most irresponsible of ways. Not always consciously but most of the time just simply being lazy. As I’m writing this, I’m actually having an “ah-ha” moment of just trying to think why? The word safe immediately comes to mind. Maybe I found safety and comfort in holding myself back just enough? Like as if I’ve been willing to take just a little bit of risk, just a small leap of faith lol. But the full thing? The real pressure on myself to go 150% though? To be in the best shape of life? To work on my craft and my skills so feverishly that I could never doubt them? To think about my looks strategically and to be vain for just a moment so that it would benefit me? To finally find my light and actually stand in it? I haven’t done that, I know that I’ve just been comfortable and doing just enough.

One of my best friends, boyfriend always accuses her of only going 30% “She hasn’t tapped into her real potential yet, she’s not really trying yet.” Whenever he says it, I feel like he’s talking to me and not my friend. But birds of a feather stick together right? And he’s right my friend is only operating on her lowest setting, but her and I had a real conversation one night about her fears about herself. Her reasoning for holding back was simply her own doubt that she could handle the pressure. Afraid she’ll disappoint and not measure up to the requirements. But you’ll never know if you don’t try right?   

I’ve been fortunate to witness a lot of my friends and peers, take the challenge of stepping into and owning their light. Stepping up to the pressure and making the changes necessary to be and do what they wanted. They all found a way to own it, even if that meant they had to fight harder than they’ve ever fought before, but in the end that fight took their lives and careers to another level. And though I’ve gotten far and I’m grateful for all that I’ve learned and experienced, I’m now at a stage where my “cutting corners” and playing it safe is beginning to catch up with me and make me very frustrated and restless.

I’m sharing my honest thoughts and progress with you guys because I know that I’m not perfect, but I’m striving to be the best version of myself that I can be and that requires me to be open. I say all of this to say, if you’re anything like me, ask yourself honestly if you’ve found your light? And if you haven’t what do you need to do find it and own it?

You’ll never know if you don’t try

-Sincerely my nagging conscience.