(New Video Post) What I forgot About #SelfLove

Hey guys, Happy Self Love Saturday!!

Today’s video is a reminder about the maintenance of #SelfLove. I often meet people who think starting a “self love journey” means now life is perfect and your confidence is perfect and everything should just come together in a nice little bow. But in my experience that’s definitely not the case! The point of Self Love is awareness, acceptance and improvement. Maintaining that cycle is all that matters and understanding that in order to keep your self esteem up, and your self confidence then you have to constantly be doing the little work. This video is a reminder of some of the steps that I forgot to maintain my own self love.

(New Video Post) “How I Started Loving Myself” #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

Today’s post I was inspired to give you guys a story about how ALL of this Self Love Stuff started for me. The breaking point or rather the “a-ha” moment that I had when I was living in NY and had just ended a long relationship, that made me realize it was time for a change! Check out the video below and tell me your story, when did you start loving yourself?

(New Video Post) #DearMama Happy Mother’s Day #SelfLove

Happy Mother’s Day!

I decided to dedicate this weeks video to all of the mother’s and got a little help from my friends, Sarah and her daughter Nyah, Celeste and Rosco to speak about motherhood as well. Enjoy the video below and have a blessed day.

(New Video Post) The Most Important Lessons from My 20’s #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

A couple videos ago, I asked you guys to leave me a comment with some of your video ideas or suggestions that you’d like to see from me and one comment was from RochelleSays asking for “the important lessons I learned in my 20’s.” I thought this was a great suggestion! I loved my 20’s, I’ve grown so much in the last decade and learnt a lot of valuable lessons, there was too many to put in one video but here it is,  just some of the most important lessons that I learned in my 20’s.

 

  1. Trust Yourself: It took me a long time to learn to trust my voice and my ideas and my plans. The more I learned to trust myself, the more my life started to come together.
  2. Not All Friendships Are Forever: I started my 20’s with close friendships that didn’t last me the entire decade, and the guilt and the anger took a toll on me. I’m not sure why I put this expectation on myself that these friends were supposed to be with me forever, but as I evolved I realized some friends are only meant to last one season and THAT’S OKAY. Enjoy the lessons, the jokes and good times with them and if it doesn’t go any further than that, you’re not a bad person, you’re just growing up.
  3. You Can’t Eat Everything: It took me awhile to realize that I was no longer a teenager, in the early half of my 20’s I was barely working out and just eating whatever I wanted and I gained a lot of weight. By time I was 25 I felt like I looked completely different and it was simply because I wasn’t taking care of myself. I had to take the time to learn my body, understand my habits and start to respect the body that I was in.
  4. You Control Your Beauty: Within my 20’s I learned (and I’m still learning) that my “beauty” was in my hands. Yes there was your God given genetics that played a hand too, but it wasn’t as big as I thought it was, because I realized that when I started to treat myself right, with healthy food, meditation, prayer and exercise than I felt better. And feeling better made my naturally look better and that made me want to dress better and it went on and on. And this became “the beauty” that people began to see and react to. I was in control of my beauty.
  5. What Do You Want?: One day I asked myself this question, like seriously, WHAT DID I WANT? And I wrote it out, I brainstormed, I dreamed and I took the time to let it really come together and once I finally had it all written out, I looked at it clearly and then I began the process of executing.
  6. Being You Is Enough: This was hands down the most important lesson I learnt within my 20’s. I took the leap of faith on MYSELF. I started to believe in me, and accept myself for who I am and just be 100% me all the time. Sometimes were tough but in the end, I felt better and life seemed to work out better the more I was myself.

Tell me in the comments below what lessons you’ve learnt so far in your 20’s or if you’re out of your 20’s what lessons did you learn?

(New Video Post) Why Is #SelfLove Important? – Behind The Scenes #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

Hopefully by now you have had a chance to check out my 3 part docu-series that I released earlier in the week, but if not, no fears, the videos are below! 😉 I gotchu boo! Today’s #SelfLoveSaturday video is all about why I did this project, why I chose the ladies I chose and why self love is important to me. Watch the video below and in the comments let me know, “what is your magic?” and “when did you find trust?”

 

(New Video Post) Finding Magic, Finding Joy & Finding Trust – 3 Part #SelfLove Documentary

I wanted to make a documentary that focused on Self Love and the beauty of Black Women, below you’ll find A 3 part series, “Finding Magic” “Finding Joy” & “Finding Trust”. I was privileged to have open honest and inspirational conversations with writers, singers, actors, artists and cool girls who shared their experiences with me and I am so happy with how it turned out. Thanks for the love it’s already received and please let the questions sit with you and let me know? What’s your magic? What’s your biggest fear and when did you find trust for yourself?

(New Video Post) Your Environment Could Be Self Sabotage #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

A few weeks ago I had a really interesting thing happen to me, I was in the midst of self sabotaging by staying in an environment that I’ve been in before and I know its not good for me. And to top it off I was literally repeating the same mistake that I’ve done already! Then God gave me a way out, but the “out” came masked as a “negative” but in reality it was a “positive”. It was the KICK that I needed, it was the moment of truth to look around at myself and see what I was doing – AGAIN! So I took the boat that God had sent me and I got out of there as fast as I could lol.

It was a reminder to check myself and if I want to stop self sabotaging that means everything has to be questioned and looked at with a fine tooth comb, especially my environment. If it doesn’t calm me, inspire me, and enhance me than I do not need to be there! Check out my quick video below inspired by a negative environment.

(New Video Post) How To Have Movement In Your Life #SelfLove

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Hey guys!

I joined a weekly bible study group last week. It’s my first time doing something like this but I’m so glad I’ve done it! It feels really good to get a positive Word mid week and be in a calm space with like minded people, thank you to my friend Randy for putting Konnect LA together.

Last week the message that we focused on was Movement and how Movement comes into your life, what creates movement, what may force you to move in life and so on. It was an inspiring conversation and right in line with my thoughts, goals and plans for my year. This week my video is inspired by that conversation and I’m highlighting the moments that stood out to me the most. Check out the video below.

(New Video Post) Why Do You Doubt Yourself? #SelfloveSaturday

Hey guys,

Happy Self Love Saturday! I had a big “ah-ha” moment the other day while I was on a shoot and it has inspired todays video. I was doing what I love – working on set, talking to interesting people and being an artist and out of nowhere crept in a little moment of self doubt. I don’t know why, I don’t know how but this little nasty voice started telling me I wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t funny enough, they aren’t impressed with me and blah blah blah! I just laughed, honestly, I was shocked. 1. That I was finally in a place of consciousness that I could hear this voice 2. That I understood what was happening and aware enough to stop it. And I did. I took a moment of pause and then in silence I spent the next few minutes in gratitude, going over everything good that was happening around me instead of worrying and thinking about anything bad. It helped, the little doubt voice stopped and my smile came back, and my confidence returned.

But I couldn’t help but ask one question, WHY? Why did I have this little Doubt voice living in my head? Where did it come from? Did something happen to me as kid? Why did I tell myself this tragic story about who I am in times when I needed to be my best? But most importantly HOW Do I unlearn this terrible habit? I haven’t figured that out yet, but I’m going to try as much as I can until something sticks. Check out the video below inspired by “Little Miss Doubt”.




(New Video Post) Who is In Your Circle of Influence #SelfLoveSaturday




“Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of heaven.
Fear in your mind produces fear in your life. This is the meaning of hell.”

I’m re-reading “A Return to Love” By Marianne Williamson. It is such a beautiful and eye opening book and probably the best thing I’ve done for myself this month. I’ve hit the chapter on “Relationships” and Marianne simply puts it that all of the relationships in our lives are for the purpose of teaching. We are to teach the people in our life something and they are to teach us something and all of it is strategically put together by God. Reading this gave me a big “a-ha” because I’ve been analyzing my friends a lot in the last little while and why we’re in each other’s lives, but Marianne Williamson reminded me it’s about teaching. I often forget how important the teaching process is, and both positive and not so positive experiences can teach us something that will change our lives and perspective forever. This is a necessary part of growth. Check out my video below, inspired by “A Return To Love” and the below quote for a little more #selflovesaturday inspiration.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.